Encouraging Others to Their Highest Potential

Posted by Cassandra     Category: Live the Life of Your Dreams

“It is literally true that you can succeed best and quickest by helping others to succeed.”

Napoleon Hill

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Why then do so many people try to climb to the top on the backs of others? It is because too many think there is a limited supply of what they want and if someone else takes a slice of the pie, there will be less left over for them.


This is a response that has been conditioned into us, but it is not true. Our universe is vast and expansive. Just as our needs change and grow, the universe changes and grows to accommodate us. It is one of the magical, mysterious miracles of life. We should be cheering each other on and helping each other out. Our hearts should soar with joy at the success of another!



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Our soul, our essence is made up of a vibrational energy that has been placed in a body that allows us to navigate the physical world we live in. Our memories, our thoughts, our actions and reactions come from the intangible part of ourselves that we commonly refer to as our spirit or soul. When the body is gone, our energy remains. I could talk about our energy all day, as it is a subject that fascinates me and that I invest a great deal of time studying.


But the point of focus today is that we are all made up of this same energy, just like every drop of water in the ocean is made of the same salt water. And the combination of all of us makes up the collective whole, or as scientists are calling it, the unified field, just as all the drops of water in the ocean comprise the ocean.


Too many people work against each other, competing for money, attention, jobs. We really are in this life together. We can get so much more done by working as a team. A candle never burns less brightly by lighting another candle. Instead it makes the room brighter.


Maybe that is why I find the word Namaste to be the perfect greeting. Loosely translated it means: I honor the place in you in which the entire universe dwells. I honor the place of love, truth, light and of peace. When you are in that place in you and I am in that place in me, we are one.




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I know why people compete. We have been programmed this way. The early bird gets the worm. I want my slice of the pie. There is only so much to go around. THESE THINGS ARE SIMPLY NOT TRUE!


Just as we grow and evolve, so does the universe. As we conjure new dreams and desires, the universe tunes into those vibrations and starts lining things up for you. It begins to arrange things to go your way to make it easy for you to have those things that will make you happy. When you continue to think about the thing you want, be it a job, a new home, or a car, forces of nature continue to work so circumstances will align and allow you your wish. If you want apple pie and it's gone, the universe will bake another one!


To me, all things of the universe are of God. Not my special God or the God of my religion, but the one and only God who lovingly created and watches over all of us, bar none. Others will say a higher power or the universe is the genius behind life as we know it. But you should be able to trust that a force powerful enough to make elephants, butterflies, ants, deer, flowers and all the other magnificent wonders of the world, could easily render any want you may have.


The only person you should be competing against is the person you were yesterday.


This is one of the reasons I am planning on a monthly spotlight. I want to shine the light on other people that are doing great things. Whether it is an author, a business owner, or someone who performed a courageous act, it is important to build each other up to our highest potential, and it is my honor to do so.


My next blog, SPOTLIGHT ON AWESOMENESS, I am honored to introduce you to an amazing woman named Mari Mitchell Porter. She has quite a story and lots of lessons she can teach. She has dedicated her life to making a difference to others. She is an inspiration and I hope you will check back at the end of the week and be encouraged by this wonderful, radiant being of light!




Why Worry When You Can Be Carefree?

Posted by Cassandra     Category: Live the Life of Your Dreams

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“Worrying is like paying on a debt that may never come due.” ~Will Rogers

My goal today is to lead you to a place where you will take a closer look at worrying.  By looking at it, and seeing it for what it is, you can get to a place where you can put this wretched habit behind you and never let it rob one more moment of your glorious life from you.

Bold claim, I know, but stay with me.  By shining a light on this useless emotion, you will want to ditch it.  It's will be like you have been carrying around a heavy back pack for most of your life and you finally open it to reveal that it has been filled with nothing but garbage, useless, nasty garbage all this time.  You will want to toss it and feel the sweet relief of lessening your burden.  Being worry free is liberating, exhilarating and allows you to live with a greater degree of joy, bliss even.  It is a gift and it is the way we were meant to live… worry free.

Now let's take a closer look at this thing we do to ourselves.  Unless we are in immediate danger or are in the middle of conflict, worry involves the past or the future.  It helps to be aware that our existence, whether we think it is a great life, a mediocre life, or a bad one, is that way because we “think” it is.  Simply put, your thoughts, positive or negative, will dictate whether your life is positive or negative.  This is important.  Once you grasp this concept, why would you select negative thoughts and purposely inflict a negative life upon yourself?


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When we look at the past, we can either recall positive memories or memories that make us feel bad.  When I am going through my rampage of gratitude, I conjure wonderful images of things I have done, places I have seen and people I have shared these special occasions with.  It makes me smile and I get the warm fuzzies.  This is good.  Anything that makes you feel good, increases your vibration or energy level and draws you closer to your desires.  

But all too often, when we look back at things we could have done better, we do not stop with analyzing the event and putting it behind us.  We bring that situation back with full intensity to beat ourselves up.  We punish ourselves, as if that will change anything.  The fact is, we cannot change the past, but if we learn from it, even mistakes can be a positive thing.

Stop yourself when you hear that voice in your head saying anything like:
You should not have done that
People are going to think you are a jerk for doing that
What were you thinking
Your life would be so much better if only you had only (fill in the blank).

See where I am going with this?  If it makes you feel bad, DON'T DO IT!

So how can we stop with the regrets?
Assign a time to review your actions over the last week.  When mentally evaluating yourself, imagine you are assessing somebody else.  We tend to be more fair and less harsh in rating others than we do ourselves.  Decide what you could do better and move on.
Whenever you remember the past and it doesn't make you happy, push that memory aside and find a good one.
Realize that what is making you feel bad is just a thought!  That thought will still be there if you need to recall if when a similar situation arises, but you do not need it now.  It is not serving you!  Get rid of it!
Observe that you are choosing to replay this thought, therefore you are choosing to make yourself feel bad.  Then ask yourself if you would use sandpaper on your arm and keep rubbing your skin with it even though it hurt.  Would you?  Heck no!  Then realize how silly it is that you are mentally doing the very same thing.


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Now, back to the future.  I understand why we worry.  At one time, I had a black belt in it.  We try to run through every scenario so we can determine the best way to handle it and avoid unpleasantness.  But this back fires on us because we do not know when to stop!

As humans, we have a tendency to project the worst case scenario and then get emotionally attached.  We apply our emotion of fear to an outcome, and this is where we go wrong.

What problem were you worrying about this time last year?  Can you even remember?  Did it turn out as bad as you imagined it would?  Chances are, the answer is no.  Yet we spend so much time with this wasted emotion that only pulls us into the depths of despair rather than allowing us to live the life of our dreams.  Every emotion pulls you closer to or further from where you were meant to be, in a state of blissful abundance.  That would be equivalent to planning a roadtrip to California from Texas and heading east on purpose.  Once you realize you are going the wrong way, you would turn around.  So turn your thoughts around.  Do not spend time going the wrong way!  When you are focused on the best possible outcome, you are in the mindset to produce positive results and find ways to create an opportunity rather than simply handling an unpleasant situation.

So how can we stop with the worry?
You will always have issues that require your attention.  Assign a time to thoroughly exam the best way to handle the issue and do not think about it until then.  Once you have decided the best course of action implement it.  If you must adjust the course of action, assign a time to do that as well.  If this issue comes to mind any other time, find something else to think about.
Ask yourself if worrying is going to help the situation or just make you miserable, then ask if you want to be miserable.  Now if you want to be unhappy, by all means, who am I to stop you?  But sometimes just recognizing that you are engaging in destructive behavior that yields no reward can be enough to snap you out of it.
At the assigned time, think about the best possible outcome of the dilemma at hand and work toward manifesting that result.  
Don't take on problems that are not yours.  Everyone encounters pot holes in the road once in a while.  This is something the other person needs to deal with.  Trust that they are capable of doing so and will ask for help if they need it.
Look around you and enjoy what is in front of you.  Why ruin the present by worrying about a future that may never exist?

Hopefully you it is now obvious how destructive worrying is and how it serves no useful function.  Without this heavy burden, you are free to soar to great heights and start living the life of your dreams.

Cassandra Eubank is one of the most inspirational and influential writers on how to be happy now and living the life of your dreams. She posts regular blogs with advice and information on how to best the best you possible. Her eBooks have helped countless and she explores with you, easy and effective techniques to manifest the abundance that everyone deserves. Her website, www.BelieveAndReceive.com features her blogs, great information and many treasures to help enhance your existence.

Think Yourself Into the Life of Your Dreams

Posted by Cassandra     Category: Live the Life of Your Dreams

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The single biggest reason a person will succeed or fail, at anything, is the way that person thinks. Your outlook will determine if you are happy, if you reach your goals, if you get what you want in life. You must know how to think in order to live the life of your dreams.

We are constantly flooded with thoughts. Memories of the past, problems in the present and what we imagine will come to pass in the future.

When we think of the past, we are recalling memories. We visualize it happening again in our minds and we remind ourselves of the moments or events that stood out the most. If the memory was a good one, our self talk may sound like, “That was a great afternoon. The sun was shining and the cool breeze made the weather perfect. We had so much fun at the beach, swimming and eating those huge ice cream cones. It still makes me laugh when I think of the look on Sara's face when her mint chocolate chip scoop fell on that man's head when we were walking by.”

If it is a bad memory, our self talk might go like this, “I should have just kept my mouth shut at dinner. I was only trying to be helpful when I suggested they may want to discipline their kids more. I thought they really wanted advice. I know better than you make parenting suggestions to them. I hope they know I was coming from a good place. What a jerk I am. Why can't I just learn to be quiet!”

While I plan to do another blog on your self talk regarding the past, and how damaging regrets and worry are, today we are going to focus on how your thoughts decide what kind of life we will have. When we ponder the future, the way we think, our thoughts and our self talk will ultimately decide our destiny.

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Here's the good stuff! You get to write your story. You get to imagine your version of the perfect life then make the decisions that will take you to the places you want to go. If you want to go back to school and get your degree, imagine it, create a plan of action, then do the things that will make this “dream” materialize. You can live the amazing story you have written for yourself.

It is important to understand that every thought will take you closer to or further from your goals. Every time you speak to yourself, you are encouraging yourself or you are trashing yourself. Only when you are engaging in positive, inspiring and supportive thoughts are you moving into your very best life. Let's take a closer look at the probable outcome from both types of self communication.

Negative self speak: I would love to get my degree, but I just do not have the time or money. I am paying the bills, but there is not that much left over at the end of the month. And I only get two days off a week. I have to clean the house, grocery shop, take the dog for walks. Plus, at my age, I would feel so out of place. Would I even be able to learn? What if the classes are too hard and I fail. I already feel like a failure because both my brother and sister graduated and I didn't.”

Positive self speak: You know, it's about time I finally got that degree I have always talked about. If I call the local college, maybe they have financial assistance. I could start bringing my lunch to work, color my own hair and give up the weekly manicures to save money. I am going to run through my budget and see how much I can cut back for now. Then when I get that degree, I will be able to afford more great things with the raise that comes with it. I can tape the TV shows I watch and fast forward through the commercials and use the time that saves to study. I could even stop watching one of those shows for now. I was great in school before and I know I can do this. The time is now. I am going to do this. I'm going to start making a plan of action right now!”

I think it is obvious which version of self speak with get you where you want to go. To succeed, you must rid yourself of words and phrases like can't, won't, and don't feel like it. You are a divine creation. You are a child of God, a child of the universe. You are awesome and powerful. You can accomplish miraculous things.

So how do you eliminate these thoughts that will sabotage your success? The first thing is to be aware that you are doing this. Monitor your thoughts, as if you are an outsider. As you listen to your self speak, just observe. Are you building yourself up or tearing yourself down. If you are not continually cheering yourself on, ask yourself why.

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When it comes to our thoughts of the future, our mind play a movie of how we want things to go. If we are thinking about our work, our thoughts may be about how to handle a problem, a confrontation, or a large task. Schedule a time to thoroughly investigate the best way to resolve or handle the issue, and do not think about it until then. Worry and doubt will maim you if you let them. We also tend to imagine what we think our future will be like and then we do the things that will bring that image to life. If we think we will never lose weight, guess what, we won't. We will reach for the cake to console ourselves rather than take a walk around the block.

Now think about how our self talk makes us feel now. Looking at the positive and negative examples above, which one makes us feel better? Okay, I know the answer is kind, supportive and encouraging talk will always make us feel better, but I wanted you to answer it for yourself. Now ask yourself, why would you purposely make yourself feel bad? You would never do this to someone else, isn't it a little irrational to do this to yourself? Of course it is, so STOP!


Want to have a little fun? Close your eyes and imagine your version of the perfect life. There are no obstacles in your way. Dream big or dream small, as long as it is your dream. You are strong and healthy and ridiculously wealthy. What do you want to do with your time? Do you take the yacht out every weekend? Will you set up the foundation for children that you have always dreamed of? Will you get a little house closer to your kids? Get as clear as you can on what you want. Feel the fun and excitement of imagining that you have the life of your dreams. Feel the gratitude and love that emanates from your soul as you consider just how blessed you are. Now open your eyes and figure out how you are going to live that dream. No lame excuses! Never accept less than you deserve in life. And you do deserve so very much!