Think Yourself Into the Life of Your Dreams

Posted by Cassandra     Category: Live the Life of Your Dreams

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The single biggest reason a person will succeed or fail, at anything, is the way that person thinks. Your outlook will determine if you are happy, if you reach your goals, if you get what you want in life. You must know how to think in order to live the life of your dreams.

We are constantly flooded with thoughts. Memories of the past, problems in the present and what we imagine will come to pass in the future.

When we think of the past, we are recalling memories. We visualize it happening again in our minds and we remind ourselves of the moments or events that stood out the most. If the memory was a good one, our self talk may sound like, “That was a great afternoon. The sun was shining and the cool breeze made the weather perfect. We had so much fun at the beach, swimming and eating those huge ice cream cones. It still makes me laugh when I think of the look on Sara's face when her mint chocolate chip scoop fell on that man's head when we were walking by.”

If it is a bad memory, our self talk might go like this, “I should have just kept my mouth shut at dinner. I was only trying to be helpful when I suggested they may want to discipline their kids more. I thought they really wanted advice. I know better than you make parenting suggestions to them. I hope they know I was coming from a good place. What a jerk I am. Why can't I just learn to be quiet!”

While I plan to do another blog on your self talk regarding the past, and how damaging regrets and worry are, today we are going to focus on how your thoughts decide what kind of life we will have. When we ponder the future, the way we think, our thoughts and our self talk will ultimately decide our destiny.


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Here's the good stuff! You get to write your story. You get to imagine your version of the perfect life then make the decisions that will take you to the places you want to go. If you want to go back to school and get your degree, imagine it, create a plan of action, then do the things that will make this “dream” materialize. You can live the amazing story you have written for yourself.

It is important to understand that every thought will take you closer to or further from your goals. Every time you speak to yourself, you are encouraging yourself or you are trashing yourself. Only when you are engaging in positive, inspiring and supportive thoughts are you moving into your very best life. Let's take a closer look at the probable outcome from both types of self communication.

Negative self speak: I would love to get my degree, but I just do not have the time or money. I am paying the bills, but there is not that much left over at the end of the month. And I only get two days off a week. I have to clean the house, grocery shop, take the dog for walks. Plus, at my age, I would feel so out of place. Would I even be able to learn? What if the classes are too hard and I fail. I already feel like a failure because both my brother and sister graduated and I didn't.”

Positive self speak: You know, it's about time I finally got that degree I have always talked about. If I call the local college, maybe they have financial assistance. I could start bringing my lunch to work, color my own hair and give up the weekly manicures to save money. I am going to run through my budget and see how much I can cut back for now. Then when I get that degree, I will be able to afford more great things with the raise that comes with it. I can tape the TV shows I watch and fast forward through the commercials and use the time that saves to study. I could even stop watching one of those shows for now. I was great in school before and I know I can do this. The time is now. I am going to do this. I'm going to start making a plan of action right now!”

I think it is obvious which version of self speak with get you where you want to go. To succeed, you must rid yourself of words and phrases like can't, won't, and don't feel like it. You are a divine creation. You are a child of God, a child of the universe. You are awesome and powerful. You can accomplish miraculous things.

So how do you eliminate these thoughts that will sabotage your success? The first thing is to be aware that you are doing this. Monitor your thoughts, as if you are an outsider. As you listen to your self speak, just observe. Are you building yourself up or tearing yourself down. If you are not continually cheering yourself on, ask yourself why.

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When it comes to our thoughts of the future, our mind play a movie of how we want things to go. If we are thinking about our work, our thoughts may be about how to handle a problem, a confrontation, or a large task. Schedule a time to thoroughly investigate the best way to resolve or handle the issue, and do not think about it until then. Worry and doubt will maim you if you let them. We also tend to imagine what we think our future will be like and then we do the things that will bring that image to life. If we think we will never lose weight, guess what, we won't. We will reach for the cake to console ourselves rather than take a walk around the block.

Now think about how our self talk makes us feel now. Looking at the positive and negative examples above, which one makes us feel better? Okay, I know the answer is kind, supportive and encouraging talk will always make us feel better, but I wanted you to answer it for yourself. Now ask yourself, why would you purposely make yourself feel bad? You would never do this to someone else, isn't it a little irrational to do this to yourself? Of course it is, so STOP!

 

Want to have a little fun? Close your eyes and imagine your version of the perfect life. There are no obstacles in your way. Dream big or dream small, as long as it is your dream. You are strong and healthy and ridiculously wealthy. What do you want to do with your time? Do you take the yacht out every weekend? Will you set up the foundation for children that you have always dreamed of? Will you get a little house closer to your kids? Get as clear as you can on what you want. Feel the fun and excitement of imagining that you have the life of your dreams. Feel the gratitude and love that emanates from your soul as you consider just how blessed you are. Now open your eyes and figure out how you are going to live that dream. No lame excuses! Never accept less than you deserve in life. And you do deserve so very much!


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One comment on “Think Yourself Into the Life of Your Dreams

  1. What a  joy it is to  come to your uplifting site. 

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